Friday, 28 October 2016

7 ways to stand up for yourself.

Todd DeSantis
Grab your snacks because this is a long one! But, before I start, let me know about the layout of this post because it took a lot of trial, errors and time to achieve. What do you think of it? Do you like it or do you want me to change it? *Also, you'll only be able to see it properly on a desktop. - Right, let's begin... This post is following my previous post 'stand up for yourself'. It's only right if I give you some ways which help you start this new journey.

 1. CONFIDENCE.                                                                                                                                              

There’s no other way to say this other than if people find you a ‘weak’ person, or you  don’t have that much confidence, then people will find you as a target. They will most likely take advantage of you. However, if you’re confident and known as a confident and bold person then people are less likely to mess around with you or label you. In order to be confident, you need to be comfortable. Be comfortable with the person who you are, comfortable with your appearance, comfortable with your strength and weaknesses. Being comfortable with yourself does take time but it’s not impossible. It’s all about your mind set. Once you’re comfortable with yourself, and gain that sense of confidence then you can start speaking up for yourself. Once you’re comfortable with yourself then you won’t let anyone lift a finger on your character because you are happy with yourself. Also as a little note, you need to be comfortable, confident and believe in what you’re saying. So, be confident in your opinions and thoughts, respect other people’s opinion but don’t forget yours.  

  2. LEARN TO SAY NO.                                                                                                                                    

Something I am currently still working on but something very important. This will be one of the hardest points to put into practice but it’s essential. If you’re anything like me and you find it hard saying ‘no’ to people because you don’t want to let anyone down then the chances are people will use you, walk all over you and take advantage. If you know you can’t do something, then do yourself a favour and say ‘no’. If you have a lot going on, too much stress or burden and someone is asking you for something just straight up politely say no when necessary. People will get use to it and stop asking you and they’ll respect you more for being straight forward. This will lead me into the next point of thinking about yourself first. 

 3. THINK ABOUT YOURSELF FIRST.                                                                                                                  

Just do not, ever, put someone else’s needs, wishes and wants before yours because you are important and you need to live your own life. Don’t let anyone depend on you or be taken advantage of.


Take little steps and soon you’ll be there and it won’t seem so hard, it’ll become second nature to you. Practice different situations and scenarios in your head or practice them with someone who you know. Practicing difficult situations will help you learn more and soon enough you will get there. Don’t forget to be polite and kind, whilst remaining to stand up for yourself. Don’t settle for anything you’re not worth. For example, we could get the wrong order for food or a shopping order, or there’s a situation in which you need to correct the other person by telling them what's just happened and correcting them by being polite. 

 5. DEFEND YOURSELF, APPROPRIATELY.                                                                                                          

When some tries to put you down or verbally tries to lift a finger on your character then do something about it. Speak your mind but, think twice before speaking so you make sure that you’re not doing the same thing to the other person. Don’t stand for others disrespecting you. You’ll even show others around you that you won’t take any of that disrespectful behaviour! Make sure you have a strong and clear tone so you’re demonstrating that you’re feeling confident in yourself. 

 6. DON'T BE AGGRESSIVE.                                                                                                                               

Whilst standing up for yourself always make sure that you are never aggressive and try to achieve a positive result because you will feel calmer. Have a nice, polite and positive tone whilst maintaining your ground. 

 7. TURN NEGATIVES INTO POSITIVES!                                                                                                              

We all get negativity thrown our way but it’s our job to transform them into positive thoughts. If you keep on thinking about the negatives, then you’ll lose that goodness inside of you, so always be positive. For example, if someone said you’re too sensitive then smile, and make it so it means you have a big heart and there’s nothing wrong with having emotions, which represent that you’re a human. 
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Until next time, take care and keep smiling. 
Ramsha | Rose


  1. Good tips, some of them are overall known, but very often forgotten. Loved the idea of practising situations in my mind AND with other people. Also, I like the last one :) Always supporting the positivy. :)

    1. Thank you for your lovely comment Madara! Looking forward to reading more of your work. xxx


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